I can be very impatient. Sometimes I lose it on my husband, other times I mumble under my breath, and sometimes I grumble in frustration with my daughter when she doesn’t move fast enough or doesn’t let me get my things done. It is humbling. Just yesterday, I got super mad (like really mad) at my husband for taking a nap while I was at a baby shower. It was not my finest moment. I had expected him to do the outdoor chores while I was gone so we could have family time that evening. Oof. If I had a quarter.. nay, a penny.. for each time I was angry because of unmet expectations I would be a millionaire by now.
Why is it so hard to let go of expectations?! I don’t know about you, but for me, I tend to put very high standards on myself. I want to get everything done. And when do I want to accomplish all of these things? Now, of course… duh! (I just giggled out loud) Facepalm. We are only human. Letting go of these expectations will change absolutely everything about our relationships. EVERYTHING.
I can almost guarantee you, that you get mad about unmet expectations because of one of the following reasons:
- you are in a hurry
- you put too much on your plate
- you never communicated your expectations or needs in the first place
Feel attacked yet? LOL I know I do. Gosh, if only we weren’t so in a hurry. Have you ever noticed that your kids only go slow when you have to get somewhere quickly? I guarantee you this isn’t true, you just only notice how they move at glacier pace when you are in a hurry.
Same thing with your horses, right? When we are in a hurry, they NEVER seem to want to get into the horse trailer. UGH! The absolute worst. When you are in a hurry, the horse never gives you their best.
So…. what is the remedy? Don’t put so much on your plate. Take your time. Don’t be in such a big hurry. It will do wonders for your relationship.
Stay tuned for next week. <3